To all my black friends who have lived through this week:
I’m sorry.
I say this not to assuage any underlying sense of white guilt, not in any attempt to speak for all the white people of America or even any white person other than myself (they can all go fuck themselves for all I care).
I say this because it’s what a decent human being, or any human being at all, for that matter, would say to another human being who is going through unspeakable grief/loss/pain/trauma. I say this because even if it is completely the wrong thing to say, it is better to say something–anything–than nothing at all. But then, I am a blogger. It is part and parcel of my unique vocation in life to express my unsolicited opinion on subjects about which I know nothing and have no place to speak. And I am a white person.
Now, to all the white people who haven’t yet left the room since I started doing these anti-racist posts: If your response to the events of this week is anything other than the above, then are you a decent human being? Are you even a human being at all?
“But he should have complied!!!”
What black parent hasn’t sat his/her kid down at some point–perhaps multiple times–and had that excruciating talk about how to act toward the police? What white parent has ever had to have that talk with his/her kid? There is a gross injustice here.
“hE sHOulD hAvE coMpLIeD” Shut the fuck up.
“But he was carrying a knife!!!”
Kyle Rittenhouse was carrying an assault rifle. A. Fucking. Assault. Rifle. And all he got from the police was a friendly wave and a thank you. After he had just shot and killed two protesters.
“Destruction of private property is not an acceptable form of protest.”
So murder is an acceptable response to destruction of private property but destruction of private property is not an acceptable response to murder. Bitch, bye.
“The black community should be going about this differently. You catch more flies with honey, you know.”
When your history includes three centuries of being owned by other human beings, shit gets complicated real quick. That’s why they’re so angry. If it was you, wouldn’t you be angry too? If not, why not?
“But…black on black crime.”
At this point I am fully convinced that “black-on-black crime” is a fabrication on the part of a news media machine that for ages has been fully invested in promoting the worst possible stereotypes about black people and black communities in the service of systemic racism. (Remember the news coverage about crack back in the 80’s?) Even if black-on-black crime is really a thing, it is probably a symptom arising from the fact that many black communities are not nice places and they do not have a lot of the nice things that many white communities have. Why? We’d probably better not talk about that.
“What about all the absent black fathers?”
This is another one I hear a lot. I’ll tell you where all those absent black fathers are. And they’re not where you think they are. They’re not running around out there living their best life now, living the drug/pimp/playboy dream. They’re in jail. Why? Because you put them there. I put them there. We all put them there. How? Three words: War On Drugs. The New Jim Crow will tell you all about this.
“All those entitled millionaire brats boycotting in the NBA–who gives a fuck about them anyway? They need to just shut up and play on.”
So when you are making millions because of your ability to pass/catch/dribble/shoot a ball at the highest levels of your sport, that automatically cuts you off from your humanity and from any feeling you may have for others in your family/community who are being crushed under the weight of American systemic racism. Bitch, sit down and shut up.
“You’re just being a honky and speaking up for black people because you don’t think they can do that on their own, a nice soft form of racism. The vast majority of African Americans do not support what you support. But you keep on whitesplaining.”
I actually got that one from a Facebook friend, someone I used to be in choir with at my church, back when my church had a choir.
The truth is, black people have been speaking up. For years. Decades even. And all it has gotten them is more of the same shitpile of systemic racism shoved down their throats by white America. Whether by Donald Trump and his jacked-up neo-Nazi thug supporters, whether by George Zimmerman, Kyle Rittenhouse, Dylan Roof, etc., whether by the Ferguson cops or the other cops who incessantly perpetrate police brutality in black communities. Or whether by the white people who are quite content to look the other way and just go on with their lives and act as if none of this concerns them in any way whatsoever. It really makes no difference at the end of the day.
And they are tired of it.
White people: Your black friends/neighbors/coworkers/etc. are most emphatically NOT ok right now.
When a fellow human being is experiencing immense loss, pain, hurt, grief, trauma, etc., the proper thing to do if you are a decent human being–or a human being at all–is to just say “I’m sorry” and leave it at that.
And when a fellow human being is experiencing grave injustice, the proper thing to do if you are a decent human being–or a human being at all–is to stand up and scream out at the perpetrators of said injustice, “Bitch no. Not today. Not on my watch.”
Some things should never have to be said, yet here we are.